I used to believe that people feared failure. However, I suspected that I was missing something. While I still believe this can be generally factual, I see much need for highlighting a nuance.
Just think about this: if a woman lost her young child to an untimely death, I'm sure you wouldn't be so inconsiderate as to tell her, “Don't worry, you can have more children,” right? Yet, when people lose other relationships or things, there's a lot of impatience and bypassing that goes into our responses. “Don't worry, you can get another job… another house… another wife…” While this may be true, there's a missing bridge between the edge of their loss and the ledge of resilience. Without the bridge, there's just a large gulf between, with an ocean of grief separating loss and resiliency. “Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.”
This is a word of encouragement to support those through the GRIEF of having lost prized possessions or livelihood such as foreclosure of homes, eviction from apartments, repossession of vehicles, licenses or certifications revoked, bankruptcy, business failure, etc.
We oftentimes associate GRIEF with the sorrow that comes from a loved one passing away and rightfully so. Losing a dear friend or family member or even your favorite celebrity through death can create profound grief. However, grief can be experienced from any perceived loss of something deeply valued. Loss of material things or accouterments of success are often overlooked or stigmatized as being insignificant or vain, respectively.
Be of good cheer and find peace in knowing that there are others dealing with a similar situation and be supported in realizing the fact that your concerns and needs are valid. This bridge will carry you over from your loss to your resilience so that you don't drown in profound grief.
People do not fear failure as much as they fear being paralyzed and immobilized by the grief that follows the failure. They are rehearsing their past. While I enjoy that we overcome with the power of our testimony… I don't look forward to collecting anymore hardship stories. 😆🤣 Miracles are beautiful, but being in the position to need a miracle isn't. People who fear the grief of failure tell themselves a story that, while it's full of their own memories of conquering and triumph, they still haven't fully recovered from the chaos and trauma. THEY DON'T WANT TO GO THROUGH THAT AGAIN!!!
It's not the failure they fear, it's the meandering about throughout the River Jordan. With strength and courage, they would fail fast and fail many times as a strategy since each failure statistically means that you're closer to your goals. But the wind that gets knocked out of you can be difficult to recover from when you blow your Breath of Life into all that you do. These people are exceptionally passionate. It's not that they fear failure, they fear being stuck in the grief of failure as last time, they almost didn't make it out.
To be continued…
Thank you for reading.
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